• Martha’s Vineyard, Beyond the Sharks

    Martha’s Vineyard is one of my favorite places in the universe. I used to spend the last two weeks of the summer near South Beach just outside of Edgartown. We would take the ferry from Wood’s Hole, and once I could feel the salt air I knew I was heading somewhere wonderful.

    MV Steamship Authority
    Martha’s Vineyard Ferry

    We always had a list of things to do there, most of which included just hanging out on the beach, but we also needed food and entertainment!

    While the Vineyard does have islanders, the peak season for tourism is usually Memorial Day to Columbus Day. During July and August, you have to pre-book the ferry if you want to bring your car to the island. But you can have a great time even without a car – the Vineyard Transit Authority has a great bus system to get around the island, and the busses stop right at the ferry terminals.

    The Pink House
    Flying Horses Carousel
    A gorgeous gingerbread house

    So where do you start? I recommend Oak Bluffs! Oak Bluffs is home to the beautiful gingerbread houses (part of the Martha’s Vineyard Camp Meeting Association). One of my good friends in high school spent her summers there, so I’ve got memories of sitting on a brightly painted porch listening to Red Sox games on the radio. They’re just so gorgeous to wander around! The most famous one is the “Pink House,” so be sure to check it out. After you’ve wandered around there, mosey over to the Flying Horses for a carousel ride. It’s the oldest platform carousel in the United States. If you catch the brass ring, you get a free ride!

    The Black Dog Tavern
    Store front
    Bunch of Grapes

    From there, head over to Vineyard Haven (or start there if that’s where your ferry goes!). Bunch of Grapes Bookstore is a must do for every bibliophile. It’s independently owned and has been there since longer than I can remember. After you grab your stack of books, head over to the Black Dog Tavern. Dinner is what they’re famous for, but I love the bakery for their sweets.

    When you’re ready to explore further, head to Edgartown for some shopping. Be sure to stop at the Vineyard Vines store! Just past Edgartown is a famous beach – South Beach! It’s known for where Jaws was filmed. As you drive there, you’ll pass a few sights from the movie as well.

    Before you leave Martha’s Vineyard, you have a few more necessary stops…you simply can’t go to the Vineyard without watching at least one Menemsha sunset. It’s one of the only places in Massachusetts where you get a beach sunset! Before sunset, grab some lobster at The Homeport. It’s where we used to go for my brother’s birthday every year. I’m a huge fan of the strawberry shortcake. Don’t forget ice cream at Mad Martha’s. They have three locations on island. And a famous dessert called the Pig’s Delight. It’s ordered by saying “Oink”!

    Places to Stay:
    * The Edgartown Inn
    * The Dockside Inn
    * Mansion House Inn

    Places to Eat:
    * The Black Dog Tavern
    * Mad Martha’s
    * The Homeport

    Happy Travels!

  • I have to confess that I am the passenger princess in this relationship. From our very first trip together, Alex has done 95% of the planning. To be fair, the first three trips were planned before I existed in her life. So it was a simple matter of her adding me on to plans that were already made. Of course it would make sense that she would handle that. Sometimes the patterns of a new relationship takes hold and develops a momentum of its own. This is not always a bad thing, though it can be. But it is a real thing and it happened with us and travelling.

    I am thankful for this. I get all of the pleasure of traveling with hardly any of the hassle. Like none of the hassle. I feel guilty, but all I need to do is make sure I navigate the airport, be supportive during the hard parts of travel, and answer the questions when asked during the planning stage. Alex is kind of awesome and I am fully included in the decision making process. These aren’t her trips, she makes sure they are our trips. She likes the planning. The problem solving. The research. Planning a trip is second nature to her.

    There is a spectrum of Passenger Princesses and I have to admit that I am way out there. I’m not a 1 or 2 where I could jump in at any point, but lets my partner person take point. I am like an 8-9 where I am sure I could handling changing a reservation if needed, but I have never done it. What’s JetBlue’s phone number? *shrug* Where is our Marriot Rewards Number? Somewhere? Maybe? I do know where my passport is and how to make sure I get on the right flight on time. So I am not a 10. But the hard logistics of all? Nope. It’s like someone asking you to do the dishes and your response is, “Honey, where’s the dishwasher?” Sitcom dad, I am at the sitcom dad side of the spectrum.

    How do I dig myself out of this hole? I roll with it. I am honest about it. I appreciate what she does. I enjoy our trips. And I contribute to her blog.

    And that is the key to being a passenger princess, appreciate it all. All the effort, all the emotional labor, and all the thought that goes into it. You participate where needed. That includes during the trip and during the hard parts of the travels. The scales may never balance, but what matters is the journey, the adventure, the memories, and being together. You support their travel hobby by being a person that is enjoyable to travel with.